tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1460496734888016832024-02-18T22:32:34.306-08:00Honoring the SenseDeep Clarity, Self Accountability, Unimaginable ResultsCONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-53453801520729722502012-02-10T00:15:00.000-08:002012-02-12T16:38:40.344-08:00New Office Opening- Arbinger South East Asia<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br />
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Sharing with everyone our beautiful memories.CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-63616949810816182122011-07-10T23:39:00.000-07:002011-07-10T23:39:12.777-07:00Lighten Your Day<b> Lighten Your day</b><br />
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" We are at your happiest when we are out of the BOX!" In just changing our Way of Being we are open to experience the happiness, freedom and choice we have on <br />
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Many of us know that the secret to self-betrayal is just that, but some of us still fall resistant to our senses...many times making our days are heavier than the usual...<br />
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Read on to find out what a leader said to lighten his staff's day...<br />
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This was a 30 second Speech by Bryan Dyson (CEO of Coca Cola)<br />
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"Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the<br />
air. You name them -<br />
Work,<br />
Family,<br />
Health,<br />
Friends<br />
and Spirit<br />
and you're keeping all of these in the Air.<br />
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You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.<br />
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But the other four Balls - Family, Health, Friends and Spirit - are made of<br />
glass. If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked,<br />
nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must<br />
understand that and strive for it."<br />
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WORK EFFICIENTLY DURING OFFICE HOURS AND LEAVE ON TIME & GIVE THE REQUIRED TIME TO YOUR FAMILY, FRIENDS & HAVE PROPER REST.CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-50609039951238853332011-06-30T21:14:00.000-07:002011-06-30T21:14:49.429-07:00Reframing Mindsets<div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">The first of every year marks a traditional milestone for re-framing as people make new years resolutions based upon parts of themselves or aspects of their lives that they wish to improve. These resolutions may include losing weight, finding a better way to improve grades, continuing education, improving free throw shooting and so on.</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">The new year resolutions are often met with initial excitement that inspires behavior towards the goals and the beginning of change. However as time persist the reason for change loses priority or the motivation for the change becomes weak or perhaps the change did not appear to be occurring fast enough and subsequently the person gave up. Re-framing may be a continuous process that includes factors such as commitment, strategy, action, contemplation, and maintenance. </span><span style="font-size: x-small;"></span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">Just as you and I experience struggles and challenges in meeting their potential people do as well. Maslow’s theory of self actualization proposes that people are internally motivated to realize their potential with continued growth. Therefore, it is likely that people have a vision of what type of person they would like to be and what kind of life they wish to live. When there is a disparity between where people aspire to be and where they a n inner drive should inspire a need for change to engage in behavior that would yield desired results.</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
<span style="font-size: x-small;"><div class="MsoNormal">The Yo-Yo effect,Stress, Confusion, Misguidance, Poor relations are all too familiar troubling factors that schools and teachers face in light of their student's behaviors. </div><div class="MsoNormal"> </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKKRz_0hXnQ-nKIO-Ak1zszfC4YQcixNklQgxSQEUbYD1YnwBTmVC5lrn2zdY31DH0iMn608kFrGxxFvGyW_vENwuP19rUwJgOQXzFOJ9Efdvffhh4U1Et_2JsIANfunnFZzaN7N8dg0Aw/s1600/images.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjKKRz_0hXnQ-nKIO-Ak1zszfC4YQcixNklQgxSQEUbYD1YnwBTmVC5lrn2zdY31DH0iMn608kFrGxxFvGyW_vENwuP19rUwJgOQXzFOJ9Efdvffhh4U1Et_2JsIANfunnFZzaN7N8dg0Aw/s1600/images.jpg" /></a></div><div class="MsoNormal"> <b> </b></div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>Behavior with Mindset</b></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Many of the students are involved in behaviors that will eventually lead to trouble with the police, families, employers, or educational facilities; or will cause them harm. When they begin to live a lifestyle that does not agree with cultural norms (i.e., drug use, violence, and missing school) they are normally in the precontemplation phase; "minimizing the need for change" and "far from ready to change". When they begin to face discipline issues because of their actions they enter the contemplation phase, becoming more aware of their behavior. <span style="font-size: x-small;"><br />
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</span></div><div class="MsoNormal">During the preparation phase the young adults may begin to understand they have a more serious problem in their life than they were initially willing to admit to and become interested in ways to change their life. </div><div class="MsoNormal">The action stage would be where the intensive confusions in lives occur, when they are taking observable action to change their life. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Maintenance is the primary stage where teachers and counselors are seen to intervene and assist students with preventing relapse. However, the outcome hoped for by Arbinger is not termination of negative behaviors but evaluating the negative -root of the problem that is causing the behavior in the first place. However, many students will recycle through the first five stages during their enrollment without ever being successful and this should be something that is expected. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">When the student arrive at the behavior level- they can be held in hands and thoughts to moving into making the responsive choices they can make at this stage. While in school, their evolution through the cycle has an impact on the community. Like guides, the teacher need to understand where a student is in their lives so they can work with them to make improvements in their behavior. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>Creating an uplifting vision or strategy</b></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><b></b></div></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: x-small;">An individual may not realize there is a need for change or reframing. This is usually the case when people are used to doing things one way, there can be a lack of understanding and accepting that change is needed. The stage of denial as Linney, B. J. (1999) describes it, is more relevant to change in the behavior, but the relation of denial and personal change is very relative to how the personal change may affect future changes from being implemented within the heart. One may say that this brings to the attention that change is “threatening both time-honored traditions and prevailing cultural values and practices. </span></div><span style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif; font-size: x-small;"><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
On the contrary, I have observed that one of the best avenues of reframing mindset is in uplifting specific awareness.... such a target that creates visions that a person can imagine and aspire towards such crossing the tape of the cross-country marathon. The vision promotes strategic thinking of how to accomplish the feat such as a workout plan and schedule, hiring a trainer, and or eliminating fried foods from diet. For example, students who are in the contemplation phase who are showing increased signs of manipulation or in Arbinger language we say- sinking beneath - there is dire need to assess the students readiness to change and give the support and guidelines to frame.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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<b>Questions: </b></div><div class="MsoNormal"><b><br />
</b></div><div class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-size: x-small;">How might aspects of your personality or your various skills and abilities have played a part in the success or difficulty of the change?</span></b></div></span><span style="font-size: x-small;"><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div></span>CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-8709100685432165352011-06-23T22:36:00.000-07:002011-06-23T23:30:13.911-07:00Adjustments<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh96L-1cVp31AphV4mo9RNWfkKljGPralFhf5vWid6FKSL9OgzNONW3h_dsaa3WouwOh9BoK5KamTRh9iRM6GIxt3X9UwfmJXmBjKGmdjnNNVajq12SZ1PjegKuJzCXNTQlUvidBNAQFAE0/s1600/images.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><br />
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Last night I rented "The Adjustment Bureau" with Matt Damon. Great movie by the way (5 stars).<br />
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In it, he plays an up and coming politician who has deviated from the "plan" which he was supposed to be on. This so called "plan" was created by the "Chairman" who, we are led to believe, is non other than God herself. In any event, "The Bureau" is a band of people who work for the "Chairman" and are entrusted with keeping people "on plan." For example, if the plan calls for us to marry Tony, then the Bureau ensures that we don't miss the bus where we are supposed to meet Tony - our future life partner.<br />
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The reason they manipulate our lives is because when we have been given the opportunity to write our own plans, we have screwed up (e.g. WWI, WWII).<br />
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<b>Why do we screw up? Because of our failing in honoring our senses, that's why! </b><br />
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We are, the movie depicts, as impulsive animals by nature. Accordingly, we are incapable of harnessing our passions and as a result of our impulsiveness and hubris, make many, many mistakes.<br />
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The Bureau, afraid that one day we will screw up so badly that even they could not undo the damage we may one day cause (i.e. ending life as we know it), have decided to take away our free will and instead, only given us the semblance of it.<br />
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As I was watching the movie I felt the movie was trying to validate the point to standing by to what we know as making things go Right for others and could anticipate the notion “Fail to honor the choice and it fails to honor you.” Corresponding with this identification of the true source of power in any organization, successful politicking or hurt within families can be based on the ability to be untangled from complications when honoring ones' choices by addressing them.<br />
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Pain hurts especially when I'm trapped in my Box.<br />
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Pain breaks us ( family, friends and relationships) into two. Pain kills us a little everyday and there’s nothing we can do. Pain shapes us, transforms us into people we thought we’d never be or sometimes people we always wanted to be.<br />
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Pain seeps into our lives suddenly, when we least expect it. Pain tricks us into thinking that we can’t take it anymore or that our skin isn’t thick enough to endure it.<br />
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Pain cuts through us like a butcher’s knife and we let it. We feed our pain. We listen to sad songs, hold on to memories, watch depressing movies and run towards pain knowing that this is how it’ll all end; tears, sleepless nights, and scars we bury deep. Death, a lost love, distance, abandonment, and a lot more bring us to our knees praying to have the strength to get up again.<br />
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After every blow we take, we promise ourselves we’d never give in to the pain again, but as the days go by and as we meet more beautiful people, experience life further, and choose to become who we are today, we risk getting hurt. We risk being vulnerable, we risk inflicting pain on ourselves but then again we talk ourselves into it like we can handle the consequences. Like we’re superman, pain is nothing to us. Like regrets don’t exist and like scars are teachers in disguise. <br />
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Like a little kid learning to ride a bike, falling down and getting up again till they get it right, pain pushes us forward; pain makes us appreciate peace of mind.<br />
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Pain makes us appreciate wholeness of the heart, pain makes us appreciate our lives and it makes us appreciate ourselves for getting out of every painful experience whole again. Even when we’re missing a piece, we tell ourselves that this was meant to be, that pain was destined to happen, that pain taught us a lesson we had to learn the hard way!<br />
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Dear Pain, Hurt and Grieve,<br />
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Thank you for making me the beautiful person that I am. Thank you for teaching me everything I know. Thank you for showing me that my Red Flags are alerting my in-the-box momements. Thank you for turning my weaknesses into strengths, my precious moments into memories, my heart into a beating drum, my eyes into a well, and my body into a castle that holds a wealth of stories on every corner. <br />
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Right now, all I can do is kiss you goodbye, because what I'm sure of is that from out the box, you are my strength to making a choice I need to make.<br />
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Sincerely, <br />
Broken down, but getting up again!CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-63102549951551253272011-05-10T03:16:00.000-07:002011-05-10T03:16:26.128-07:00Undercover BoxesI cant' help but watch the entire series of the undercover boss, and if you have not, I encourage you to do so- its so exemplary of what sense a boss has to take maybe even for that point of moment/situation after filling in the shoes as an employee in his own company. <br />
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<a href="http://singapore.bbcknowledge.com/za/programmes/undercoverbossusa"><i><b>The Undercover Boss</b></i></a> is a television franchise series that has been released in multiple countries, originating in 2009 on the British Companies. <sup class="reference" id="cite_ref-0"><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Undercover_Boss#cite_note-0"><span></span></a></sup> The show’s format is based on a senior executive of a company working undercover in their own firm to investigate how the company really works and identify how it can be improved, as well as rewarding the hard working staff.<br />
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An Amazing experiment I hoped to do an undercover with my boxes...<br />
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Undercover boxes can be very tricky to approach- its almost as we are in the center of a whirlpool not wanting to be suck into it. However, upon survival, it is most helpful in acknowledging our Red Flags, because in any situation or person we have some of our repetitive characteristics playing up that can help us to keep noticing our boxes that are erupting...<br />
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I tried the game of the undercover boxes just two day back, purposefully and carefully keeping a full surveillance over my feelings, how I sounded and what my actions were being in the box not wanting to come out- I bet many of you have tried this, knowing the consequences...<br />
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But amazingly I found how just playing the cover had put such control in my hands towards others. Not because I knew that my need to honor grew stronger in the process or anything but the importance of just understanding where I sometimes just go blinded by the various situations that may cause those better than or worse than boxes to validate myself.<br />
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Again the truth is that in seeing and truly being able to sense what another may require is a gift to be cherished. Where in moments I had the sense but just controlled that desire to go and help my grandmother pick up her spectacles on the floor just blew my cover eventually... however I guess its almost a test to how long you can see yourself possibly staying out of the box at any situation.<br />
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Have you played the undercover Box?<br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;"> </span>CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-5737096123646160352011-04-28T20:48:00.000-07:002011-05-02T21:08:15.871-07:00Arbinger Likes & DislikesFun ways of expressing Arbinger...<br />
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There are just so many great ways of FUN liberated through Arbinger's ning community... <br />
My personal best are (in no particular order at all):<br />
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1. Weekly Questions that ponders our experiences and allows us to share just a bit of who we are and how sometimes we are not getting an answer and then ta-dah' - the box is lessened...<br />
Sarah I believe this is on everyone's mind and that is to congratulate you over your great work over the weekly though provoking questions... Heather must be really proud with what is happening over with the ning....<br />
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2. Blogs by the various people in the Community. I recently saw how Sherri's Blog on <a href="http://arbingercommunity.ning.com/profiles/blogs/the-courage-of-honouring-a">The Courage in Honoring a Sense </a>and am so happy for what it allowed her to take steps into creating a manifesto for us to open thoughts to our honoring of a sense and I kindly invite all on her behalf to visit this link to her blog to do this -<a href="http://www.consciouswomenonline.com/"> http://www.consciouswomenonline.com</a><br />
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Another blogger who will always be my guide and inspiration to when I first began my baby bloggy steps was Cossie... I still recall how Cossie's Food for thought had driven me a purpose... almost on a clear mission to help liven our stories into blogs-- he's blogs such as <a href="http://arbingercommunity.ning.com/profiles/blogs/finding-my-blind-side">Blind Side</a>, <a href="http://arbingercommunity.ning.com/profiles/blogs/what-counts">What Counts</a> & many many more are just really thought provoking and brings justice to all the work he does...<br />
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3. Arbinger Humor Box Group- I am guilty- I don't often visit my group of buddies here but just love the crakkers that goes on with Russ and the gang...<br />
I particularly laughed off my seat with our new mascot... Poorrrrr Strider (He's now added to my collection screensaver with tiger and tissue- mia doggies...)<br />
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4. Global Community Call--- Community calls are my favorite favorite of all... its real-time action and its just so exhilarating to just hear... The voices of our members not only provide us with their experiences but also mostly listening to the successes, failures, happiness or pains that others share on the line is what makes this entire body of Arbinger a fruitful one.. What delight with other facilitators and consultants of Arbinger have to humbly share with us churns out the meaningful nature for a far more vibrant OTB place to tune out with...<br />
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Sharing one last of my Likes of Likes this month.... ( or maybe last month's)<br />
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Experience of a lifetime for the facilitator course 4th April 2011. <br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjutzgdy9SWfoEXMdivjBew37MwyPeUSXbhTrbgylc-PQzN9u01Q5M8RaY0fR0ncpgFoN00_KbpFEguK2CcwQEYOQMXeeLO8FrRGx0M8ZtHzj47Q-2xmRtX58_ySkoKyfeGyqaxz_TugfoU/s1600/DSC00933.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjutzgdy9SWfoEXMdivjBew37MwyPeUSXbhTrbgylc-PQzN9u01Q5M8RaY0fR0ncpgFoN00_KbpFEguK2CcwQEYOQMXeeLO8FrRGx0M8ZtHzj47Q-2xmRtX58_ySkoKyfeGyqaxz_TugfoU/s320/DSC00933.JPG" width="320" /></a></div>The Facilitator Training with all our practices in the charts behind and beside us. This was the final day of facilitator practice or a long week of buffet lunches, extreme challenges and the joy& passion of Arbinger's work...<br />
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THE Journey doesnt' end HERE....<br />
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Bryan (left), Shee Wei, Adeline, Justin, Senthiyl and Shanu (right)<br />
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We hope to explore our wonderful Arbinger journey with a spectacle that keeps us grounded and open to learning and enjoying life more.... <br />
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Now what are my dislikes.... that is the toughest point I haven't yet to come by and when I do, I will head to this post as you should and write it down as a comment....<br />
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There is no love like the attachment bond from a mother and father... your first fight or argument with a sibling... an ever giving grandparent or doting uncles and aunts... not forgetting the hairy, smelly friend for life pet dog or cat and scaly for all the amphibian lovers out there (if i missed any other you could comment below and talk about your pet too...<br />
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Families can be a handful and literally is when issues of the heart are not resolved. My family has its fair share of both the highs and lows and I believe the lesson always at the end can be applied to an OTB phenomenon that takes place after a long time after the problem subsides.....<br />
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<a href="http://www.arbinger.com/cicfiles/gcc09142010.mp3">Nancy Smith </a>talked on about Parenting with a Heart at Peace not too long ago where one point that hit hard on me was the importance about children and seeing past their mistakes.... one point that really reached out to me was what Amber mentioned about an Arbinger's Principle on teaching/ intervening let me see if I can summarize this point " Each child in my care is more precious than life itself. Some of the greatness in my child are obvious and however some is not. I must look for it. But to look and find for the greatness is in all even as in seeing them as people.... I want to be helpful to them and in this moment that they come to learn that I care."<br />
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Heather's story on the son whom called his mother to come an pick him up as he was drunk-- it is in Parenting that one tends to fail to learn, see and feel concern towards that child... But the power of seeing beyond that (blind mode) is tapping into their greatness and remember however difficult the situation is... <br />
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<b>Allies:</b><br />
Another thing that always seem to amazes me all the time is how allies are quickly assembled within the family...Does this also happen with you? It is interesting huh... For instance; allies between sisters to brothers vice versa and so forth... <br />
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When we talk about this concept of Justification and Self-Betrayal I think we know better of ourselves... In building our allies what we are truly engaging is deepening our justifications and betrayal... Naturally why we do that is to invite the very similar behaviors from the rest so as to keep building on the allies- justification and more self-betrayal... Because we are so blinded in this notion as a family no one is safe, eveyone plays the hide and seek game awaiting for the boxes to explode...<br />
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It seems all too real... but the sufferings are immense.. I've heard from Senthiyl that the biggest ongoing war can only be the fighting in any family... and so it seems simply true. <br />
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<b>Carry Boxes: </b><br />
Yet another symptom that seems to linger within families is the Carry-box phenomenon.<br />
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"Others may not change when you change" True, But in the responsive way of being I am not offended when they don't I am ceasing to blame others because it is the right thing to do for them-- not because of what I want them to do for me."<br />
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Because in the box, we only provoke others to get in the box as well, and the mistreatment we then get from others gives us justification for staying in the box--- the Question is whether it is all Worth it?<br />
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<b>Think about you views and experiences regarding your family--- something that always draws you a bit closer, a bit more caring and a bit more connected... Share your views here- is your family worth celebrating</b><br />
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I celebrate my wonderful family and the cherishing moments of what we always share. Here's a recent picture of all of us celebrating my uncles' 50th birthday at the Singapore Cricket Club.<br />
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</tbody></table>CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-82775249298613411422011-03-04T00:41:00.000-08:002011-03-07T06:57:36.500-08:00Strategic Development<div style="color: #990000; font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>Talent + Persistence is the key to success?</b></span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">The emergence of strategic talent management and development reflects a growing emphasis on employee contribution to overall business strategies.</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"> How might an organization interested in strategic planning best use talent? </span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">In this Blog, you may wish to consider how goals and other elements of business strategy may be satisfied by strategic talent management and development initiatives....</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">The the main concern of strategic talent management and development, is that it focuses mainly on how organizations ensure—through hiring, managing, developing, and retaining practices—that their talent has the necessary competencies and motivation to meet business strategies and goals. </span><span style="font-size: small;">Strategic talent management and development issues in the organization, will usually involve both talented leaders and employees.</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">In fact, many people whom are talented people would flinch and say well since I usually love doing it I do not feel there is any hard work put into it... On the contrary, some would prefer that their effort spent, hardwork and time taken to complete their output should be complimented rather than suggesting their inborn talents.</span><br />
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</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b>Persistence to talents:</b></span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">If I do have a point here, it is this: In our abilities to harness raw talent there is a need to apply skills and techniques. Know where your strengths are and work towards to making them even stronger. Improving something that you're already good at would make it easier for you to surpass others in the competition. </span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
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In Malaysia, to meet Malaysia’s National Mission, Vision 2020 aspirations and the Ninth Malaysia Plan require government to plan and execute some strategies to fulfill the objectives.<br />
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By reform Government Company in the strategic coalition, Government Link Company (GLCs) was a platform for government to create future leaders in corporate and business world. It is the responsibilities of CEOs and Boards of all GLCs to ensure they have enough of the right leaders to help them meet their business target.<br />
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In 2006, it is estimated that GLCs face a gap of between 1,500 to 2,000 leaders who can deliver and sustain breakthrough performance. As a result, GLCs should merge leadership development actions with the business strategy; determine the number of leaders needed to hit targets and create a leadership model to get the leaders who will drive performance.<br />
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Tan Sri Dato Sri Mohd Hassan Marican, CEO of Petronas Group said “Business strategy alone is not enough. At Petronas we have merged the business strategy and the Human Development strategy. We spend equal, if not more, time and effort on human development strategies than we do on business strategies_”. (Orange Book: Strengthening Leadership Development, December 2006). <br />
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However, to implement talent management in the company, sometime some problems will occur if they are not realized and not take any action to be organized.<br />
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According to Peter Cappelli (2008) suggests a new model talent management for the 21st century by approaches to managing talent use four particular principles drawn from operations and supply chain management. He divided into four principles; make and buy to manage risk, adapt to the uncertainty in talent demand, improve the return on investment in developing employees, and preserve the investment by balancing employee-employer interests.<br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><i><b>Issues to consider: </b></i></span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">1. What does diversity have on the working environment specifically in relation to how employees were hired, managed, trained, and/or retained? </span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">2. Possible legal concerns that you were aware of or that you think should have been addressed pertaining to how the organization or company functioned.</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">3. Ethical issues which relate to strategic talent management and development.</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">4.</span><span style="font-size: small;"> Vital steps for working with an organization on talent acquisition.</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">5.</span><span style="color: black; font-size: small;"> Alignment of the company's needs and the targeted employee development.</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
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</span></div><div style="color: #990000; font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: large;"> <b>"What if individually and collectively we systematically misunderstand that cause,</b></span></div><div style="color: #990000; font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b> and unwittingly perpetuate the very problems we think we are trying to solve?"</b></span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
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</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: small;"> Return on Investment in Talent Management Put to Work Right Now. Arbinger has business solutions that addresses such issues.</span></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><b><span style="font-size: small;">Honor your talent management</span></b></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><b><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></b><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"> How important is</span><span style="font-size: small;"> strategic talent management and development in your overall business strategy of this organization?</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"> </span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">Why might an organization want to enhance employees' knowledge beyond what is required by their current jobs? </span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="color: black; font-size: small;">How might it aim to do so? How might Arbinger best help you and your organization with an eye on the future?</span><br />
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</span></span>CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-36377490104912418112011-02-25T01:13:00.000-08:002011-02-25T01:17:02.409-08:00Seeded Change<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0GhZSlJIJPQpH7gFaY2b918UwKkzU1qU97ECuIUm_zx87R13xWsuxhjG3tp2KTFZmLC_7DCBiLkJe0ljFz6p1RsfebNC7LSO5TZ8F5v3QuTV_3D1oNKJGMHO0r3mWDgK_J50UfBvqjspq/s1600/addiction1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="223" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0GhZSlJIJPQpH7gFaY2b918UwKkzU1qU97ECuIUm_zx87R13xWsuxhjG3tp2KTFZmLC_7DCBiLkJe0ljFz6p1RsfebNC7LSO5TZ8F5v3QuTV_3D1oNKJGMHO0r3mWDgK_J50UfBvqjspq/s320/addiction1.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Like all companies emphasize on the nature of change... what is so diverse in change is that many organizations are so pro-change that they are stuck deep into finding every crook and cranny of change...</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">The need to seed change in an organization may seem necessary but the change that needs to happen is within the organization and within every individual whom see's accountable. </span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Firstly </span><span style="font-size: small;">business professionals must be steeped in an understanding of their unique organizations and businesses and their design and workings. Which in many cases this includes bringing employee's, co-workers, customers insight to perspectives and foci. Many business professionals take the opportunity to examine theories and approaches of their organization. While others make use of successful strategies and techniques that are used to assist organizations in managing change and bringing about organizational health and success. However, one thing that goes temporarily wrong most of the time with change is finding the "How" to relate to their organizational culture.</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif; text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></b></div><b><span style="font-size: small;">Arbinger: "The act upon what I have discovered; do what I am feeling I should do."</span></b><br />
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</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">In order to</span><span style="font-size: small;"> help develop and manage change in the most productive and effective manner possible one crucial factor to keep in mind is helping to see How my organization can benefit from me-- because in this nature we need to find out how my feelings can I help.. or in simple terms, in my effort to initiating change how else can my services be more than about the Sustainable services and change one can bring to the organization eventually.</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">In thinking divergently, seeing problems as a challenge and opportunities as expand relationships what does it take for organizations to see strengthening or rebuilding change with their respective organizations? With exploring into a thought to ponder over ' I do not change by trying to change myself, even by trying to change my thoughts. I change by forgetting myself in response to others...To seek myself is to find someone false. To lose myself with others is to find someone true. (The Choice)</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"></span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"></span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"></span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
<span style="font-size: small;">The Choice at work talks about the inner freedom to feel, express and do what one has to do! Is that freedom you seek in your organization? Check this exceptional youtube on the motivation of people: </span> <a href="http://www.blogger.com/%3Chttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6XAPnuFjJc%3E%20"><span style="color: blue;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: Verdana,Helvetica,Arial;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><b><u>The surprising truth about what motivates us.</u></b></span></span></span></span></a> <br />
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</span></div>CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-90531570987090556162011-02-18T00:02:00.000-08:002011-02-18T00:02:23.419-08:00Attitude or Behavior<div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">"Is it the survival of the fittest?” only where the strong will only survive?</span> </div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">The release of human potential, and promote self- expression in an organization. </span><span style="font-size: small;">There is a well-established <span style="color: black;">connection in the psychological literature between employee attitudes and behaviors and the health and success of an organization, however it is not all that defined.</span></span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">What contributes to such employee attitudes and behaviors as morale, motivation, commitment, loyalty, and retention?</span></span><span style="font-size: small;"> Just as you and I are changing in many ways, organizations are ever-changing. </span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">For instance, companies are becoming more global and more diverse and with that diversity comes a wide array of ideas and opinions. Hence I believe, an organization remains competitive due this such varsity </span>where formal configuration between individual and groups with respect to the allocation of tasks, responsibilities and authority within an organization. It’s this abstract concept that can be represented by an organizational chart. Hence, a good organizational structure can often be determined how information flows from level to level within the company, decisions flow from the top down. These trends are most relevant to today’s organization due to the fact that it relates to every aspect of the organization on every level, everywhere in each company trends exudes through out. </div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"> "At the bottom of it all is our fundamental way of being -who we are as people. Who we are in a function of our deepest attitudes and sensibilities towards others. It is the very way of being in the world with people" -- <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EZkXWl_ItCs">People Problems--- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EZkXWl_ItCs</a></span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
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</div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0in; margin-top: 0pt; text-align: left; unicode-bidi: embed;">Organizational structure shall be adaptive to process requirements aiming to optimize the effort of input and output within an organization and these challenges are what will make or break an organization.</div><!--EndFragment--> <span style="font-size: small;"></span><br />
<div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">As the saying goes, “it’s the survival of the fittest” only the strong will survive. So are we ready to honor our senses with both our attitude and behaviors? </div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><br />
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My gosh I can see fuming steam coming up from inside and transforming the muscles in the face to tighten a little notch higher.<br />
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To all my friends who need a remedy for this should read <a href="http://arbingersea.blogspot.com/2011/02/bringing-in-values.html">a A Deeper Connection</a>. Or<br />
How about a story on how a revelation of how in the Box can be like... a story entitled 'Mum I want to be a TV."<br />
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"Mum I want to be on TV" which reminded me that how serious things can be lightened even when you are in the box. <br />
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As a primary schoolteacher asked her students to write an essay about what they would like God to do for them. At the end of the day while marking the essays, one made her very emotional.<br />
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Her husband, who had just walked in, saw her crying and asked, 'What happened'' 'Read this. It's by one of my students.'<br />
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'Oh God, tonight I ask you for something very special: Turn me into a television set. I want to take its place. Have my own special place in the house. And have my family around ME.<br />
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I want to be taken seriously when I talk, to be the centre of attentionand be heard without interruptions or questions. I want to receive the same special care that the TV gets when it is not working.<br />
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Have the company of my dad when he comes home from work, even when he is tired.<br />
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And I want my mum to want me when she is sad and upset, instead of ignoring me.<br />
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I want my brothers to fight to be with me... I want to feel that the family will leave everything aside, every now and then, just to spend some time with me.<br />
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'And last, but not least, make it that I can make them all happy and entertain them. God, I don't ask you for much... I just want to live like every TV.'<br />
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At that, the man cried: 'Poor kid. What horrible parents!'<br />
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The teacher looked up and said, 'That essay is our son's!'CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-81716979466525800552011-02-04T09:02:00.001-08:002011-02-11T01:36:14.669-08:00Deeper Connection of Life<span style="color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: 10pt;">In the Chinese </span><span style="color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: 10pt;">NewYear everything starts afresh in the oriental, may it be the customs, values... one thing that outshines is the value placed on humble greetings, warm openness and genuine care and concern.</span><br />
<span style="color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: 10pt;">Holidays or not, there is a special being transformed in each one of us? Is this true? We start to see our family with more love, we start to acknowledge our co-workers, we start to embrace our friends and relatives.</span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: 10pt;">What sets us apart... from the normal days to festive occasions... What makes days that are special entitle us to act specially only for that moment? </span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: 10pt;">For some of us holidays mean a DEEPER to life connection? </span><br />
<span style="color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: 10pt;">Sharing with all a New Year Story:</span><br />
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A man bought a new pair of trousers for his primary schoolmates reunion <br />
dinner. When he tried out at home, he found that the trousers were too <br />
long by 10cm. <br />
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He asked his mother to help him shorten the pants. His mother said she <br />
could not do it as she was not feeling well and would like to rest early. <br />
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So the man approached his wife to shorten his pants. His wife said she was <br />
very tired and had a lot of work to do that night, so she could not help <br />
him to shorten the pants that night. <br />
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Then the man asked his daughter. His daughter apologized for being not <br />
able to do it that night because she had agreed to go dancing with her <br />
boyfriend. <br />
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"Ah well!" the man thought and decided he could wear his old trousers to <br />
the reunion. <br />
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Later that night, his mother thought to herself, "My son has been very <br />
nice to me. I'll just help him to shorten his pants before going to rest." <br />
So she shortened the pants by 10cm. <br />
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Then his wife finished her work and thought, "My husband knows I am always <br />
very busy and seldom asked me to help him. I would oblige him today." So <br />
she shortened the man's pants by another 10cm. <br />
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His daughter came home from dancing, and thought, "Papa loves me very much <br />
and when I declined to shorten his pants, he was not angry at all! I would <br />
help him to shorten his pants." So she shortened her daddy's pants yet <br />
another 10cm. <br />
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On the next day, the three ladies told the man that his pants were <br />
shortened. He tried them on and found that his pants had become shorter by <br />
30cm! <br />
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His reaction: He laughed heartily, and said, "I must wear this pair of <br />
pants to show my schoolmates that my mum, my wife and my daughter are such <br />
loving people." <br />
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At the dinner, his old classmates were very envious of his loving family. <br />
His mother, wife and daughter were very happy to learn about his <br />
classmates' reaction. <br />
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What would you do if it happened to you? <br />
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Very often, many would have lost their temper. <br />
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How many of us have the ability to have this understanding of this man? Many of us have "High EQ" or patience when dealing with people outside the family, whilst "Low EQ" when dealing with our own <br />
family members! How true is this for you? <span style="color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: 10pt;"> </span>CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-12723300634256087862011-01-28T01:30:00.000-08:002011-02-17T22:03:23.407-08:00JS-Why is it important?Let me guess, you want to know first and foremost what JS stands for?,<br />
and so I will, but before that I will start with a personal experience... <br />
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Just a day back Senthiyl, Sok's and myself met up with a two different individuals whom were very keen in Arbinger's work on what we do & what we stand for. One thing that followed almost immediately after this conversation was mainly "Wow it would be so COOL to be working with you guys... unlike my present job!"<br />
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Yet another incident today when we had Tyrone, a supplier came in saying how he feels if he could join us in what we do... " how I wish I could enjoy my job they way you guys do!"<br />
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In both situations, although what transpires to me was the nice compliments, what set me writing this blog was on the concept behind- not being happy in one's job and who better than-- Egor has much to say about <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PsSjN3nxibs%20%20%20">JS</a>. <- do see the link<br />
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<i>Motivation and Commitment</i><br />
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What contributes to JS? A great high-paying salary? Continuous tools of improving quality of supervision? fulfillment of interests? decentralization of power? Relationships in the organization?<br />
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How do the non-profit organizations consists of such driven and committed staff and still go through the challenges any organization faces?<br />
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How does Arbinger do it?<br />
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<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PsSjN3nxibs"></a><br />
I think job satisfaction has a huge impact on the many organizations and its affecting people worldwide. And Yes, I'm referring to job satisfaction- JS and how is it so valuable that we often disregard it. Egor's example shows how as individuals when we know something is wrong-- such as unsatisfied with our job perspectives, tend to be less committed to their organization? and eventually cause them to leave their jobs?<br />
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But how far is being open about JS valued in an organization is my second question.... maybe lets leave that to ponder over...<br />
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Job satisfaction and retention of employees is something that is so important in the different areas in which organizations work on in order to understand information regarding their employees’ attitudes, feelings and behaviors. In that, organization are empowered in many ways for example, as a result, organizations are able to troubleshoot problems and issues before the situation worsen. As such, job satisfaction which is a construct that is subliminally associated to common characteristics of employee attitudes and behaviors, enables organization in making appropriate decisions in their planning and running of their organization. <br />
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman; font-style: italic;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Knowing why I strongly feel that understanding why my work colleagues do what they do at work and to knowing how I can positively impact their behaviors and actions, employing ‘out of the box’ strategies creates a positive and conducive environment to work. </span></span><br />
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For more details visit us at: www.arbingersoutheastasia.comCONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-73515240079157591952011-01-21T01:52:00.000-08:002011-01-23T17:19:11.798-08:00Teamwork Means?Teamwork at work, schools and even as a family are designed and developed by the effort of knowledge and understanding of the interlinked relationships that grow from within... Hence it can be said teamwork means a huge deal for many....Especially for me!<br />
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I can never imagine a world where there is no teamwork effort?... As such I'm so grateful for my Arbinger team both locally and globally where I see how truly gifted we are as a team and what we stand for.<br />
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We are indeed a 'force not to be reckoned with' and I believe that many of our Arbinger members see this from the way we initiate a conversation to how we are with our families and with our friends. I believe that this has got to do alot with the team confidence, strength, trust and accountability facilitated.<br />
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Arbinger's language not only mean the deliverance of the concepts itself, but you see when we as a team of Arbinger work together, honor our senses as part of team and live by the balance of what Cossie has mentioned in his blog <a href="http://arbingercommunity.ning.com/profiles/blogs/the-ultimate-challenge">here</a>. So 3 Cheers to us for being a great Team... Arbinger's Team!<br />
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<b>Sharing with you the</b><b> ArbingBird</b><b> Animation Clip</b><b> on IN-the-BOX moments whilst working with people-</b><br />
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<b>(Do comment on your opinions over your first thoughts about what the animation-- Working with People means for you? Kindly share at this link-</b><b><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EZkXWl_ItCs">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EZkXWl_ItCs)</a></b><br />
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<b>What can be drawn from the clip is how accountability within teams are so important -- where in Arbinger, accountability is about "how we are" not just on what an output has to offer but, what actually an individual/ or team has to deliver in terms of usefulness as discussed in </b><a class="ymp-media-14a2db90c1846b10834920584c5e56c1
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The importance of compassionate leading suggests a supportive nature of what leadership encompasses. There is always something more than just building a perfect structure within the standard system but also building on what relationships are based UPON.<br />
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What exactly do we know about Leadership?<br />
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As shown in the Animation on reaching out to goals... it is assumed that when we come out of the box, we are now able to see how we are performing rather than to what we should be performing which guides leaders to reaching their potentials- internally and externally.<br />
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<b><u>Many Arbinger Members have something common about their Responses:</u></b><br />
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"I was DEEEEEP in the box, creating trouble for my boss, my co-workers, my workers, my friends and espetialy my family. I was a BLAME -TRAIN!! "<a class="fn url" href="http://arbingercommunity.ning.com/forum/topic/listForContributor?user=0o8eolf6x8v8e">Mario Krivokapic</a> <br />
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" I was a sales agent pouting because I didn't think I was getting the support, recognition and praise that I thought I deserved.... <a class="fn url" href="http://arbingercommunity.ning.com/forum/topic/listForContributor?user=2v4xe3zj0ejj5">Timothy Dicks</a><br />
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<strong>"I had an army of allies who were supporting, not me but, the worst of me. They were entrenched with me and the lies we told ourselves.</strong>"<a class="fn url" href="http://arbingercommunity.ning.com/forum/topic/listForContributor?user=205wkcy6ie83b">Russ Thoman</a><br />
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<u><b>Jim Ferrell has shared some pondering thoughts:</b></u><br />
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1.What weakness in me does this situation give me the opportunity to overcome?<br />
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2.What does being upset in response to this circumstance teach me about myself?<br />
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3.Given my present state of mind, is this situation likely to get better or worse if I say anything right now?<br />
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Arbinger's Community is not only a great place and example that fosters leadership and bonding friendships. Come discuss at: <a href="http://arbingercommunity.ning.com/">http://arbingercommunity.ning.com/</a>CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-6782796361840952282010-12-30T00:44:00.000-08:002010-12-30T00:55:16.971-08:00Freud, Deception and the Power of How Freud was an immaculate figure and a psychological acumen. Well-known for all his psychoanalytic wizardry, theories and ideas of extraordinary and some discerning in other ways (unconscious theories in particular). However, one area that Freud had yet to unravel was 'Self- Deception.'<br />
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I began to realize the powerful agendas which Freud and many others including myself seem to walk pass across on our daily live. <br />
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A Paradox which dominates the the philosophical treatment of bad faith or in some cases -deception about ourselves and others around us which seem as irrelevant to our understandings....<br />
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But what if seeing through Self Deception takes organizations, individuals, families and what's more society to break what has become the 'norm'- such as " I'll scratch your back if you scratch mine". <br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>Seeing Through Self-Deception</b></span><br />
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As I mentioned, although Freud was unable to unravel what became known as the "self-deception paradox," some scholars whom have been wrestling the same issue for over a century soon broke the fundamentals to Deception.<br />
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Self-deception is one of the most difficult aspects of being unreal to ourselves and others. This is partly because self-deception always served an often desperate, personal need where we only convince ourselves that a falsehood is true because we desire it to be true for some reason close to our hearts.<br />
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This it is mainly because self-deception creates its own invisibility. <br />
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But the problem with this is that friends, managers all and always will have their own agendas. Even a 'best friend', for example, may lie to us for reasons of her own -Besides this, everyone is playing the same addictive game and groups of friends or colleagues are a powerful source of false beliefs.<br />
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As humans we haven fallen into a few traps that may act as defense mechanisms. It might be thought that the clue to avoiding self-deception lies in the fact that objectively confirmed self-beliefs are generally more reliable than self-beliefs which rely solely on subjective justifications. For instance, we tend to know what we are doing is wrong yet we blindly and deceivingly provide excuses that gets us out of a situation.<br />
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The Leadership and Self-Deception Book recalls a monumental truth on its preface page; An infant is stuck beneath a furniture and although how hard she tries to cry or bang her head to the sides, she will not be able to be released. Infact what is worse was she started to push more only to find herself trapped for good. You see the problem was that the infant had crawled underneath the furniture in the first place and got stuck. She may even blame the furniture for having being stuck. But looking closer the problem was the infant but she couldn't have seen it. Being the problem, any solution the infant decides to try will hence not work.<br />
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In a simple term The Choice that determines Influence just doesn't stop there, as there is always something which goes beyond the blaming, behind the defense mechanisms or the blinding behaviors... it us the Paradox of Deception which reveals a deeper more congruent truth to problem solving on many levels-- expanding the Power of HOW rather than the WHAT! <br />
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<a href="http://arbingersoutheastasia.com/WebUI/Static/Books.aspx">Leadership and Self-Deception comes in an Audio-version.</a>CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-57855438095682579862010-12-14T21:55:00.000-08:002010-12-21T18:11:16.087-08:00Two Different Faces<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh5rS6SDFWM_qyXBBXqiUI4DA6hc4ZCMwgo8UQ8Cn0zwn3MMULHcKFSCj1SLlYN4QDloMVxkjEFjpkDabNmPfgJsHmvePHB4GIzZmKtokn19mIAVD6Pbfr1MmYyQzgoCIHmPsXMBeaaFbIK/s1600/jerksatworksign.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><br />
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<div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">Have we noticed how some people may be timid as mouses when talking to customers/clients but fierce as a tiger with their employees?</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">People have a tendency to divert to two or multiple different tasks, tones, personalities and attitudes. As a very distinct part of human behavior, being two-faced is a description we often use when someone acts in such a manner that is deceitful or 'Fake'. </div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">We can generally identify a 'Fake' behavior, such as to whether that person really means what he or she really has to say. it could simply taking noticing how an apology may not be sincere.<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;"> As such even you and me </span></span>fail in many ways too! For some this will be failing to see people like as with the same needs and wants. </div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">Dealing with an unpleasant situations can be both common and painful. Among the hundreds of problems faced at work, this is one of the most persistent and harmful causes of job-related stress.When you don't get along with your colleague, manager or client your days in the office feelings of hatred, and what's worse, a 'BURDEN' builds a communication 'shut-down' preventing any effort to reconcile. </div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">Arbinger <span style="font-size: small;">Concepts discusses the Choice- The Power of How... A choice that each and everyone of us has... The power of spreading the key to: relationships, communication, conflict resolution, individual growth, effective leadership, team-building, motivation, cooperation, accountability, trust, living values in the spirit they were intended, authenticity, focusing on results, alignment, vision creation and buy-in, decision-making and more.</span></div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEguP4l1vOpRfoPJm2Xcn6yN90tlfDy2qiHi4QfDaklYOCcRjfrmRu5Dq-2q4ExOYI3M__xe7bvWVKED8S49xtzeJuoO9cC2G8W9GhKQe170UJb_ZPdPEeBW9gw3Pz1NfCik7f9gbAESKzlP/s1600/jerksatworksign.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEguP4l1vOpRfoPJm2Xcn6yN90tlfDy2qiHi4QfDaklYOCcRjfrmRu5Dq-2q4ExOYI3M__xe7bvWVKED8S49xtzeJuoO9cC2G8W9GhKQe170UJb_ZPdPEeBW9gw3Pz1NfCik7f9gbAESKzlP/s1600/jerksatworksign.jpg" /></a> There is nothing in most management literature that touches on this matter. I wonder why this is not a wider topic of discussion. Two face or not, in the path towards a peace at work and heart we must 'honor our sense that hits us in our guts.</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
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</div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;">People-problems spread wide and far and tackling issues as huge as this one considers a Deeper focus. Arbinger suggests a series of levels which help organizations understand the root to people problems and stem out deeper solutions to these problems affecting growth in leadership. </div><div style="font-family: Times,"Times New Roman",serif;"><br />
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</span></span></span></span>CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-88109200277851597222010-12-10T01:42:00.000-08:002010-12-10T01:43:22.389-08:00Quiz For the Deeper Freedom<div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.08in; margin-top: 6.24pt; text-align: left; text-indent: 0in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic"; font-weight: bold;"> Inspiration wears many faces. I was taking a train ride back home, the usual crowd in the train began to disperse towards the last few stops. (Mine is the last stop) I was suddenly in conversation with a lady, about her mid 30's who presented me with an unusual but most life-changing Quiz....</span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.08in; margin-top: 6.24pt; text-align: left; text-indent: 0in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic"; font-weight: bold;">Ready to take the Quiz:</span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.08in; margin-top: 6.24pt; text-align: left; text-indent: 0in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic"; font-weight: bold;">1. </span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">Name </span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">the </span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">5 </span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">wealthiest people in the </span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">world</span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">. <br />
2. </span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";"> Name </span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">the </span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">last 2 </span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">winners of the Miss</span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";"> Universe contest</span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">. <br />
</span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">3. Name </span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">3</span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";"> </span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">people who have won the Nobel</span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";"> Prize</span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">. <br />
</span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">4. Name the last 5 Oscar Award winners </span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">fo</span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">r best actor or actress</span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">. <br />
</span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">5. Name the 5 </span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">World </span><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">Cup winners.</span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.08in; margin-top: 6.24pt; text-align: center; text-indent: 0in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><b><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">(Were you able to name at least 3/5 of the questions and correctly? Be Truthful)</span></span></b></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.08in; margin-top: 6.24pt; text-align: left; text-indent: 0in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";"><span style="font-size: x-large;"><b><span style="color: #0b5394;">Lesson learnt: </span></b></span></span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.08in; margin-top: 6.24pt; text-align: left; text-indent: 0in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">Although these people </span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;">are the best in their fields;</span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.08in; margin-top: 6.24pt; text-align: left; text-indent: 0in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;"></span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;"> </span></span> </div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #94c600; font-family: "Wingdings 2";">›</span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;"> Their</span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;"> applause dies</span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;">.</span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #94c600; font-family: "Wingdings 2";">›</span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;"> Awards </span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;">tarnish. </span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;"> </span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #94c600; font-family: "Wingdings 2";">›</span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;"> Achievements </span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;">are forgotten. </span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;"> </span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #94c600; font-family: "Wingdings 2";">›</span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;"> Accolades </span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;">and certificates are </span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;"></span></span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;">buried </span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;">with their owners</span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana; font-weight: bold;">. </span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><b><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">By the way I couldn't get past the first Question itself- all I knew was Donald Trump.. then I was blank for the rest of the other Questions.</span></span></b></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic"; font-weight: bold;">Now ready for your next Quiz:</span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">1. List 5 Teachers who aided your journey through school.</span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">2. Name 5 friends who have helped you through a difficult time.</span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">3.Name 5 people who have taught you something worthwhile.</span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">4.Think of 5 people who have made you feel appreciated and special.</span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";">5.Think of 5 people you enjoy spending time with. </span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";"> </span></span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";"><span style="font-size: x-large;"><b><span style="color: #0b5394;">Lesson learnt: </span></b></span></span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.24pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #94c600; font-family: "Wingdings 2";">›</span></span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;">The </span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;">people who make a difference in your life are not <br />
the ones with the most credentials, the most money, or the most awards</span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;">.</span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.24pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #94c600; font-family: "Wingdings 2";">›</span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;"> </span><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;">They are the ones whom share the deeper meaning with you!<br />
</span><span style="color: black; font-family: "Century Gothic";"> </span></span></div><span style="font-size: small;"> </span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";"><span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="color: #0b5394;"></span><b><span style="color: #0b5394;"><br />
</span></b></span></span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana; font-weight: bold;"> My biggest lesson on the train was the understanding of the purpose of this deeper meaning. </span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;">2 things that immediately came to thought about the Quiz idea was about being responsive with the <a href="http://arbingersoutheastasia.com/WebUI/Static/Assumptions.htm#WayBeing">Freedom</a>. How amazing was that moment to just feel uplifted, free just to know that you are someone important in his or her life? <b>Here is what the Quiz really did for me. </b></span></span></div><div style="direction: ltr; margin-bottom: 0pt; margin-left: 0.38in; margin-top: 6.72pt; text-align: left; text-indent: -0.3in; unicode-bidi: embed;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black; font-family: Verdana;"> In terms to Freedom what we need to know is that when we start to understand is what we want or what we choose is considered Freedom. However in reality, there is really no Freedom. We want to break rules but we can't, <a href="http://www.cossie.typepad.com/">Cossie</a> also discusses; 'The down side of rules.' Also just as we thought we should know about these important celebrities, sports people or the famous, we actually don't.</span></span><span style="color: black; font-family: "Century Gothic"; font-size: 24pt;"> </span></div><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: #3e3d2d; font-family: "Century Gothic";"> </span></span>CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-66668022643775872442010-11-30T00:14:00.000-08:002010-11-30T01:00:46.662-08:00Walk the Talk- When Problems Arise<div style="color: blue;"><span style="font-size: x-large;"><b>Facing a Problem, What Are we Going to Do? </b></span></div>Ozone holes, acid rain, deforestation and shrinking coral reefs crept up on us so easily and caused a huge environmental problem which generations will come to bear.<br />
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The problems do not only stop there... the rich are getting richer and the poor poorer, homeless, stranded, terrorism, corruption, illness spreading....<br />
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There are always going to be problems with the world. Problems at work, at home within our conscious minds or what we might not know, this may also be a problem... <br />
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The biggest problem in <b>the world </b>today though, and one that leads to a myriad of the rest of the world's problems is the<b> lack of accountability or taking ownership </b>....<br />
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<div style="color: blue;"><span style="font-size: large;"><u><b>Selfishness can be mind boggling at times.</b></u></span> </div><br />
This is not only a major problem in the word today- as there is an excuse for almost everything. From being a responsible citizen, an accountable employee/ employer, selfless parent or understanding spouse. Selfishness plays a definite role in many cases.<br />
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<i>Whether we are holding people accountable for their actions, what is important here is our instinctive need to 'justify' our selfishness. </i><br />
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</span></div><div style="color: #073763;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>Have your Reserved Justifications ? </b></span></div><br />
1. Our grasp of our self-identity is yet to be defined, but we spend our lives trying to be true to ourselves. Although we try desperately to live up to a definition of ourselves, we have not yet produced. Many of us will never produce it. Some have this idea processed for them by those around them, who -again- spend time defining other people's lives instead of using that time for themselves.<br />
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2. We also tend to engage in rituals of mindless self-indulgence, even though we know (both deep down we realize we are compromising in many ways) that these are things we want no part of, things we know will hurt us. This maybe a common situation to relate with-- watching something on TV which that was so 'interesting' and noticed your Mother/ Father/ struggling to finish washing dishes??<br />
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3. Our thought processes work better when we are unsuspecting; when our minds have no expectations to live up to. Thus, revelations rarely come when you're trying for them. <br />
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<div style="color: #073763;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>W</b><b>hat happens if we stop trying to live up to a definition of anything except what we want to be?</b></span></div><br />
It seems that all the energy we spend trying to keep our lives simple and safe would go just as far in trying to make our lives both complex and fulfilling. The next time we jump at the chances to pursue these justifications we must take the ownership to live the lives that we've decided? <span style="font-size: large;"><b> </b></span><br />
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<span style="color: #0b5394; font-size: large;"><b>But there is a Solution...</b></span><span style="color: #0b5394;"> T</span>his blog is not promoting selfishness. It is about the need to help out individuals who feel there is a need to <b style="color: #0b5394;">Honor the Sense, HONOR YOUR SENSE</b><span style="color: #0b5394;">.</span> The many symptoms owing to Dis-honoring one's senses starts with the lack of motivation, lack in commitment, building up of daily stress, communication problems and failure to live the life we selfishly think we are hoarding to protect. According to ARBINGER my blame, my resentment and indifference diminishes with just ONE concept that will change our Lives.. <a href="http://arbingersoutheastasia.com/arbinger/WebUI/Static/AssumSelfDeception.htm">Learn more about this concept. </a><br />
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</span></div><div style="margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #000e64; font: large Arial;">And treat those two impostors just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken<br />
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,<br />
</span></div><div style="margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #000e64; font: large Arial;">And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools: </span></div><div style="margin: 0px;"></div><div style="margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #000e64; font: large Arial;">If you can make one heap of all your winnings. And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,<br />
And lose, and start again at your beginnings, And never breathe a word about your loss;<br />
</span></div><div style="margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #000e64; font: large Arial;">If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew, To serve your turn long after they are gone,<br />
And so hold on when there is nothing in you, Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!'</span></div><div style="margin: 0px;"></div><div style="margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #000e64; font: large Arial;">If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,' Or walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch,if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,If all men count with you, but none too much;<br />
</span></div><div style="margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #000e64; font: large Arial;">If you can fill the unforgiving minute, With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it...</span></div><div style="margin: 0px;"></div><div style="margin: 0px;">Rudyard Kipling<span style="color: #000e64; font: large Arial;"> </span></div><div style="margin: 0px;"></div><div style="margin: 0px;"><span style="color: #000e64; font: large Arial;"><br />
</span></div>CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-7594739381482872832010-11-19T00:17:00.000-08:002010-11-19T00:23:53.361-08:00When Our Boxes Erupt???<span style="font-size: large;"><u><b>What Happens when our Boxes erupt for the week: </b></u> </span><br />
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</div><div style="color: magenta;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b>When Boxes Erupt, what are your days like? </b></span></div><div style="color: magenta;"><span style="font-size: x-large;"><b> <span style="font-size: small;"> </span></b></span></div><span style="font-size: x-large;"><b><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: blue;"></span></span></b></span></div> CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-68163271181709877952010-11-11T00:50:00.000-08:002010-11-11T18:46:04.601-08:00What is the Anatomy of Service?<div style="text-align: center;"><div style="color: #0b5394;"><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; font-size: x-large;"><b>An Everyday Service: Going the Extra Mile With a Heart and High-Five.</b></span></div></div><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgt_Gny6KivT0sa50Uf3Rp7OEIjcCerXjf2jFHzOvPfapmrYQVGMldrRBbrSjrrxBP_WSbwruDVldVZFfbvZ11A-qyU3dfa5JoJrEHIcQpV6AU6KWbQS4OfDHATlSIwxEYSHntndPqQsJNs/s1600/high5.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="205" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgt_Gny6KivT0sa50Uf3Rp7OEIjcCerXjf2jFHzOvPfapmrYQVGMldrRBbrSjrrxBP_WSbwruDVldVZFfbvZ11A-qyU3dfa5JoJrEHIcQpV6AU6KWbQS4OfDHATlSIwxEYSHntndPqQsJNs/s320/high5.jpg" width="320" /></a><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b> </b></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b> </b></span></div>A shop owner notices a group whom seemed to be loitering in his anti shop towards the closing time.<br />
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<i>Shop Owner:</i> " Hi my name is Bob what are yours dudes?" as he raises his hands for a high five...<br />
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The uniqueness of his state was one which directed towards 3 young teenagers each with very loud dispositions, hooked up to their Ipods and heavily waxed up hair-dos to direct their attention to the shop owner whom smiled and came forward to establish contact with each of them.<br />
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After chatting for a few seconds with the shop owner, one young teenager remarked to his buddies, " Man we gotta buy something!"<br />
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As they left the check-out counter, the store owner shot point blank one final blast of<br />
benevolence: “Please visit me again Tom, Bruce & Mike, want to get those similar hairdo's too!”<br />
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<div style="text-align: center;"><b><u>We get a glimpse when we witness a “random act of kindness.”</u><u>Only service grace is not random, it is continual. </u> </b></div><br />
What was the Anatomy of service here? A short story but with a great and underlying distinction to what the secret of what Service is all about. Like the teenagers in the opening story, it causes customers to act their best. It can tame hostility, enrich the ordinary, and add “A story to tell” to “I got my money’s worth.” <br />
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When one detects an outward giving gesture: as applied in customer service it is this "Sense" which is expressed in an unlikely context, an assertion (or as the book on <a href="http://arbingersoutheastasia.com/WebUI/Static/Books.aspx">Anatomy of Peace</a> talks about- 'Way of Being', not a response; an attitude, not a tactic not fake.<br />
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<div style="text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #674ea7;">Giving way to the "Way of Being"</span></span></b></div><br />
Service means customers experiencing you pushing it to the top. The pursuit of excellence says to your customers, “You are so important to me that you get my very best.” “Being really good” includes service with an attitude—an unmistakable disposition of joy and confidence. It means staying on top of the subtle signals in the customer’s experience that might disappoint. And, it encompasses insuring customers witness great internal service—co-worker to co-worker.<br />
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“When people ask me how do you make it in show business,” says famed actor Steve Martin, “what I always tell them — and nobody ever takes note of it ‘cuz it’s not the answer they wanted to hear. What they want to hear is here’s how you get an agent, here’s how you write a script, here’s how you do this — But I always say: Be so good they can’t ignore you. If somebody’s thinking, ‘How can I be really good?’ people are going to come to you. It’s much easier doing it that way than going to a lot of parties.”<br />
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<div style="text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #6aa84f;">Eliminating Obstacles : When Service is NOT about </span></span></b></div><div style="text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #6aa84f;">"Take Out the Papers and the Trash"</span></span></b></div><br />
The expectations of customers are higher than they have ever been. Their patience is shorter and their likelihood of taking their cash elsewhere is greater. That’s a wake-up call to ramp up close attention to the service garbage--whatever hassles customers.<br />
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No, it doesn't mean paperwork should be easier and simpler; lines should move faster, be shorter, and customer facing employees should be friendlier and more helpful.<br />
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<u><b>Realize that the Obstacle is Never the Customer. </b></u>Take a close look at where customers have to work hard to get the service that should come with ease. They came in to give you their cash and too often get treated as if they are an interruption to more important tasks. One way of being is to recognize people- whether customer, boss, co-worker as 'people' or the other as seeing people as Obstacles.<br />
Question is which type of relationship does your brand want with its customers?<br />
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</div><div style="text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #e06666;">Add an Element of Surprise</span></span></b></div><br />
Service with is delivering an extra, providing a surprise. I call it the Out-of-the -box approach. There is always something magical about an out-of-the-box surprise! <br />
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The coolest part is the fact that you never know exactly what is expected. This creates a thrill- unjustifiable happiness so as to speak. It is like a “jack-in-the-box” when the "jack" is going to pop out of the box. Service is like a jack-in-the-box--colorful service is always punctuated by a joyful,<br />
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The next time you are delivering service to someone, give them the 3 service 'Musts'—your very best, with all the hassle removed, and with a joyful surprise added. One insight in the Anatomy of Peace is that behaviors are not as important as trying to understand why we behave in a manner. Organizations can benefit by utilizing this Key tool to "WOW-ing" their customers as nothing outshines than a Great Service!<br />
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</div><div style="text-align: center;">1. Ask yourself are you focused on your own needs, results?</div><div style="text-align: center;">2. Are you open or closed to Correcting yourself?</div><div style="text-align: center;">3. Do you find yourself fully accountable in work, in terms of dealing with a customer </div><div style="text-align: center;">4. How often do you try and learn and teach others when you can?</div><div style="text-align: center;">5. Do you move too quickly to solutions or perverse delight in problems?</div><div style="text-align: center;">6. How do you find yourself feeling when you earn people's trust?</div><br />
<div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">Because there is only <b>One Thing</b> Dividing a Solution from an Answer<span style="font-size: large;">, </span></span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://arbingersoutheastasia.com/WebUI/Static/AboutArbinger.aspx">Your Link to Us</a>...</span></div><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: x-large;"> Tags:</span> <a href="http://www.blogger.com/goog_359088197">Book Galore</a></span><a href="http://arbingersea.blogspot.com/2010/09/gifts-for-lifetime-your-faithful.html">,</a> <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Anatomy-Peace-Resolving-Heart-Conflict/product-reviews/1576753344/ref=dp_top_cm_cr_acr_txt?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=1"><span style="font-size: large;"><span id="goog_1055881658"></span>Anatomy of Peace</span></a><span id="goog_1055881659"></span>, <span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Self-Deception-Getting-Out/product-reviews/1576751740/ref=dp_top_cm_cr_acr_txt?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=1">Leadership-Self-Deception, </a><a href="http://arbingersea.blogspot.com/2010/09/yet-another-intriguing-find.html">Bonds that Makes Us Free</a>, <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfeXxkbgCVE">Get Service</a>, <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zfW5eWntoPE">Motivation</a>.</span>CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-44865267303238210102010-11-02T01:26:00.000-07:002010-11-05T04:36:26.292-07:00Getting RealReal meaning of words are those that are engraved deep onto one's life, which are intangible and not many people will know and understand not on someone's verbal declaration for emotions such as love sorrow, patience, innocence, departure, pain, respect, compassion, friendship, divine and the list just grows as do our relationships...<br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><b></b></span><span style="font-size: large;"><b> Delicate Meaning of Words </b></span><br />
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</div><div style="text-align: center;">Words are a powerful weapon to communicate BLAME!<span style="font-size: large;"><b> </b></span></div><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;">"Ever wish you could take back something you had said in the heat of the moment?" </span></span><br />
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Imagine when we start blaming, we shift responsibility for what's going wrong to someone else consisting of rationalizing words. We are now indulged with irritation, humiliation, self-pity, resentment or frustration and a whole other range of deception thoughts...<br />
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When we lie with our emotions and attitudes and often with our words, what are we prepared to LOOSE? Life is not about waiting for the words to spill and storms to pass ... it's about caring and loving your relatives and friends while you can touch and see them and they are still among us. <br />
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<div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b>Embrace the Journey When Words become Wordless.. </b></span></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: large;"><b> </b></span>Its a Journey Every Man will take as he passes His Footsteps to the next..... </div><table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;"><tbody>
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Where Compassion is more than just handling a handful of cries in the night... Innocence is what remains... and seeing through that is what makes it special. We have a choice<br />
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Where friends are always there right beside you giving you a pat on the back when required, you hold a grudge to their annoying worries, concerns, or needs we also tend to share.... We still have a choice<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaJUpUVmxNSxutXhZuOFrB6HJUQPOb8Eq7T0JM_Nm3tLKmcw9jKEa5hu1w8iZPKW59T5N_zGk8EaF4LcWwj5Cr4BJsbwmAdQf9CzF5TIQjeZnvjRGE13BfmUDhsOCNLmKNMxgCpxpaw6h6/s1600/pic31015.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="241" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhaJUpUVmxNSxutXhZuOFrB6HJUQPOb8Eq7T0JM_Nm3tLKmcw9jKEa5hu1w8iZPKW59T5N_zGk8EaF4LcWwj5Cr4BJsbwmAdQf9CzF5TIQjeZnvjRGE13BfmUDhsOCNLmKNMxgCpxpaw6h6/s320/pic31015.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> Because certain things need not be spoken, may our troubles be less and instead your blessings be more. Lets always work towards a positive being, and Happiness should always be coming through your door. The place to be happy is here and the time to be happy is now. The 'choice' to be happy is to <a href="http://arbingersea.blogspot.com/2010/09/yet-another-intriguing-find.html">Bond </a>Others as so. <br />
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<div style="text-align: center;"> Words are now also a powerful weapon to communicate this Choice. </div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: Calibri,Verdana,Helvetica,Arial;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;">“The CHOICE” workshop Series organized by Arbinger shares ideas and tools that have profound individual and organizational implications .... The books, “The Anatomy of Peace – Resolving the Heart of Conflict” and “Leadership and Self Deception – Getting Out of the Box”, explain the self-deception paradox and provide solutions for maximizing our quality of relationships, effectiveness, experience and quality of life.) For more details on the Choice Series books contact us</span></span> <a href="http://www.arbingersoutheastasia.com/WebUI/Static/ContactUs.aspx">HERE!</a></div><div style="color: cyan; text-align: left;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="color: #444444;"> </span></span><span style="color: #3d85c6;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">Tags:</span> <a href="http://www.arbingersoutheastasia.com/WebUI/Static/AboutArbinger.aspx">Leadership</a>, <a href="http://www.arbingersoutheastasia.com/WebUI/Static/FeaturedArticle.aspx">Personal Mastery</a>, <a href="http://arbingersea.blogspot.com/2010/10/one-step-next-big-leap.html"></a><a href="ttp://www.arbinger.com/en/individuals.html">Positive Change, </a>Self-Deception, <a href="http://arbingersea.blogspot.com/2010/10/love-sacrifice-or-miracle-debate.html">Relationships</a></span></span></div>CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-146049673488801683.post-81670673274221421582010-10-25T06:34:00.000-07:002010-10-25T06:34:44.505-07:00LOVE? A Sacrifice or Miracle Debate<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0fpGfAQN0aRKQDALvOinXGnPwcmOLhJKopU6tAlv7iAm4msDZrEEizo6BWFeugLTa4t2Vd9bdYLaaK2Cs-5Mfb8igSd0nQrhWA3lPUeJx-4b3OmO2fXUYqbVbRknsL709BH_h3idzheBC/s1600/FRONT.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh0fpGfAQN0aRKQDALvOinXGnPwcmOLhJKopU6tAlv7iAm4msDZrEEizo6BWFeugLTa4t2Vd9bdYLaaK2Cs-5Mfb8igSd0nQrhWA3lPUeJx-4b3OmO2fXUYqbVbRknsL709BH_h3idzheBC/s320/FRONT.jpg" width="213" /></a></div><div style="text-align: center;"><b><span style="font-size: large;"> What does Love mean to you?</span></b></div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div>"Love--the feeling--is a fruit of love, the verb." (Stephen R. Covey)<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;">I have been pondering over this week on What the meaning of love is....How we define Love (as love means differently for all).</span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;">...</span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-size: small;">Why is it Love has so much yet so little to talk about? </span><span style="font-size: small;">Not only was I deeply engrossed in Stephen's quote but the insights from a discussion within the community <span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://arbingercommunity.ning.com/forum/topics/what-is-love?id=1738511%3ATopic%3A78002&page=5#comments">here</a></span>... further drifted me to capture thoughts, values and invite discoveries pertaining this issue. </span></span><br />
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<u><b>Capturing Controversial Claims over LOVE:</b></u><br />
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<ul><li>My suffering's not false, but my blame is ...</li>
</ul><ul><li>A wonder of primal instinct, a wonder of spiritual connection, a wonder of bio-chemical processes </li>
<li>What will be yours? </li>
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There are many people unaware with what love means for themselves. What we do know are the acts of love. This could include empathizing with others sharing their stories, generously providing material/financial ways, helping others with tangible tasks.<br />
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<div style="text-align: center;">(Martin Luther King)</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: center;">"He whom you would change, you must first love."</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
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This is truly inspiring story of Love and Change;<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=64A_AJjj8M4" id="video-long-title-64A_AJjj8M4" rel="nofollow" title="The story of
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<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=64A_AJjj8M4&feature=related" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Click here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=64A_AJjj8M4&feature=related</a><br />
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</div><div style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: large;"> <b>What is truly inspiring in Relationships and LOVE</b></span></div><br />
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</div><div style="color: #990000; text-align: center;">Herein lies my freedom: The world I encounter springs from my own soul.</div><div style="color: #990000; text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="color: #990000; text-align: center;">Herein lies my fate: Which world will spring from me?”</div><div style="color: #990000; text-align: center;">From "The Choice." </div><br />
Once again as Love continues so does the discussion to LOVE at the <a href="http://arbingercommunity.ning.com/forum/topics/what-is-love?id=1738511%3ATopic%3A78002&page=7#comments"><span style="font-size: large;">Arbinger Community.</span> </a><br />
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You may also wish to join in our other discussions including; <a _snid="1738511:Topic:78356" href="http://arbingercommunity.ning.com/forum/topics/my-boss-is-a-jerk">My Boss is A Jerk!, </a><a _snid="1738511:Topic:79497" href="http://arbingercommunity.ning.com/forum/topics/relationship-between-moral">Relationship between Moral Sensibilities and Reasoning, </a><a _snid="1738511:Topic:79404" href="http://arbingercommunity.ning.com/forum/topics/question-of-the-week-your">or Question of the Week: Your Arbinger Investments</a><br />
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<span style="font-size: x-large;"><b>Tag Our Gifts of Love:</b> </span><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://arbingersea.blogspot.com/2010/09/gifts-for-lifetime-your-faithful.html">Anatomy of Peace</a>, <a href="http://arbingersoutheastasia.com/WebUI/Static/Books.aspx">Leadership and Self-Deception</a>, <a href="http://arbingersea.blogspot.com/2010/09/yet-another-intriguing-find.html">Bonds that Make Us Free</a></span>CONTACThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06043249056963861866noreply@blogger.com0