Monday, October 25, 2010

LOVE? A Sacrifice or Miracle Debate

      What does Love mean to you?

"Love--the feeling--is a fruit of love, the verb." (Stephen R. Covey)

I have been pondering over this week on What the meaning of love is....How we define Love (as love means differently for all).... 

Why is it Love has so much yet so little to talk about? Not only was I deeply engrossed in  Stephen's quote but the insights from a discussion within the community here... further drifted me to capture thoughts, values and invite discoveries pertaining this issue. 

Capturing Controversial Claims over LOVE:

  • My suffering's not false, but my blame is ...
  • A wonder of primal instinct, a wonder of spiritual connection, a wonder of bio-chemical processes 
  • What will be yours?

    But What does love still mean to us? 

    There are many people unaware with what love means for themselves.  What we do know are the acts of love. This could include empathizing with others sharing their stories, generously providing  material/financial ways, helping others with tangible tasks.

    (Martin Luther King)

    "He whom you would change, you must first love."

    This is truly inspiring story of Love and Change;

    Click here:

     What is truly inspiring in Relationships and LOVE

    Herein lies my freedom: The world I encounter springs from my own soul.

    Herein lies my fate: Which world will spring from me?”
    From "The Choice."

    Once again as Love continues so does the discussion to LOVE at the Arbinger Community. 

    You may also wish to join in our other discussions including; My Boss is A Jerk!,  Relationship between Moral Sensibilities and Reasoning, or Question of the Week: Your Arbinger Investments
    Tag Our Gifts of Love: Anatomy of Peace, Leadership and Self-Deception, Bonds that Make Us Free

    Friday, October 22, 2010

    DAY 3 One more Time Around...

    Workshop for Leadership Self-Deception (Core-Training) Day 2Workshop

    A heavy Breakfast to start of the day...

    The Warm Registration

    Participants engaged in talk by Senthiyl

    Tea Break to mingle...

    Pizzas, sandwiches and chocolate pastries...  Just awesome!

    Group Shots

    We had the best event of getting to meet extraordinary people and getting to share our Arbinger Ideas to many new members.
     Cheers to All Arbinger Friends!

    DAY 2- Workshop Day

    Workshop for Leadership Self-Deception (Core-Training) 

    The morning greets us with a wide range of buffet selection for Breakfast.
    Enjoying a Quiet Morning Breakfast
    The buffet included a range of  cereals, breads, cheese, salads, scrambled eggs, sausages, nasi lemak, juices, milkshakes fruits etc..

    Final Checks -Registration Begins

    Ensuring all in place and presentable in the morning!

    Svend and Senthiyl Registers with Sahara at the entrance of Victoria Ballroom...

    Participants warm up as Senthiyl introduces what self-deception is all about.

    In deep concentration, Arbinger friends listen carefully

    Discussion Discussion & More Discussions...

    Great View from the front as Participants were invited to the back to discuss on their BOX type

    Arbinger Friends socializing and discussing

    Lunch at Palm Terrace

    Participants were specially arranged for buffet lunch at Palm Terrace

    Book Galore- Precious, Priceless Gifts to Loved Ones

    Precious gifts for work colleagues, bosses and even their family members or friends.

    Arbinger Friends Leaving with Heart at Peace

    Dinner- Pizza @ Pizzeria

    Being served at Pizzeria, we ladies enjoyed the food. Senthiyl with his classic tiramisu, Svend with his much required notebook from 7-11,

    Thursday, October 21, 2010

    DAY 1- RoadTrip NEXT STOP KL

    The 3am Wake Up Call 
    At 415am our Singapore Arbinger Team- Senthiyl, Sahara & Shanu finally embarked on our much awaited road trip to KL. We picked up Svend on the way at Johor Bahru to began our next lap heading towards KL.We envisaged our months of preparation and anxiously looked forward for the "Leadership and Self-Deception' (Core-training) workshops.

    The next hour or so we ladies at the back seat got our much needed snooze (mostly catching up on beauty sleep) while the gentlemen were engrossed in their conversations in the front.

    Pumped up at our First Stop.

     We finally got to stretch out for breakfast at Krishna's Restaurant where we had our first meal for the day. Mr Akbar soon joined us and we immediately had a round of discussion about anything and everything under the sun. In popular demand our favorable topics included the disadvantages of food flavorings to interesting facts of food products to concepts behind Halal food preparations. Well most of our conversations were geared towards food as you may already know we are some hungry people. (PS: The Prata set meal was huge!! Next time get 1 piece.)

    First Visit at Akbar's Office 

    Akbar's Office@ Petaling Jaya
    Soon after a heavy breakfast we arrived at the delightful, and virtual "Zen-like" place...

    Yes~ Akbar's office was jaw-dropping beautiful. Cheers Akbar!

    Serious packing guys! Great Job
     We soon started to unpack boxes and books for our workshops. As a team, together we arranged the goodie bags in a matter of an hour we were completed.

    After a hard day of sorting out of things, we finally had time to sit together to share a drink and continue our lively chat around the table.

    Lunch Taj Cafe & Restaurant  

    Look at all those smiley faces!! Liping Sighs- "why am I not there ah!"

    As it was nearing 1 pm, we took a drive down to Taj Cafe & Restaurant, a 2 min walk from our Hotel- Holiday Villa Subang. We feasted our eyes on the sumptuous meals presented to us. Mostly spicy but simply delicious South Indian meals. YUMMY!!

    Our Home for the Next 3 Days

     A stone throw away and we have now reached our core destination- Holiday Villa Subang Hotel, M'sia

    Holiday Subang's Warm Welcome as we check-in


     Dinner at Pizzeria Bella Italian 

    Take a pose... and say cheese
    Dinner at Pizzeria was along the stretch of other restaurants. The appetizers and not forgetting the soups simply fantastic o! A sweet pondering thought was that although we were significantly tired and pretty much exhausted for the day, we shared a great dinner together immersed with missing our families back home, and not forgetting our dear Liping whom is back at Singapore with Baby Chole and family ~ miss you!

    Wednesday, October 6, 2010

    One Step, Next Big Leap

    Breaking Animosity & Bridging Peace...

    When drawn to animosity, problems manifest within relationships, communication, teamwork, motivation, commitment, leadership as a symptomatic, deeper problem of self-deception.
    This is not a narrow work, as it turns out that the problem of self-deception is the problem that lies at the heart of most every "people problem" and every conflict between individuals and groups. This means that lasting solutions to conflicts and lasting improvement in teamwork and cooperation depend on the eradication of the central problem of self-deception.

    This understanding is unique to Arbinger, and it means that Arbinger is equipped to take on problems that have seemed to defy solutions before.

     Let us witness Arbinger taken to court:

    By taking one step with confidence, Arab and Israeli youths seen in the video today have taken their stand in the court. Now, many teenagers are going through Arbinger training while making life long friendships starting as teammates on the court.

    One agency which is using the principals taught by Arbinger is Peace Players International which is helping to resolve centuries old conflicts through basketball. The program is happening in one of the world's hotspots, Jerusalem, Israel.

    From Gym Court to Society, imagine the impact now ....The next big leap will break a history of animosity and spread peace to the next generations to come.